Holding On

It’s been a while as I have been racking my brain about what to post about next. Why do I always procrastinate when I already know what it is I want to post about?! It’s been hard to find inspiration when all I want to do is give up. That is why I am writing this today.
Holding on and not giving up are choices we make everyday. It can be very daunting when life gets on top of you and the easiest thing to do is to let go. This is why everyday when we wake up and throughout the day we need to constantly make the decision to not give up. Not only does this mean we stay motivated in pursuing our goals but we also stay bliss!

As my first post states I have been looking for a job for a while now. This has been a emotionally draining process as I feel my adult life can’t fully begin until I get a good job. I need the prospect of promotion as well as a steady pay check so I can start to think about moving out. It has been so difficult wanting all of this and trying hard to get it just to have nothing pan out. And some days have been harder than others but I keep telling myself to not give up.

All you need is one break, one chance, one person that believes in you enough to take a chance on you. If you give up and stop believing in yourself there is no way anyone else will. Every single interview I go to, I do slightly better. My feedback is good and keeps improving. Even though I might not be what that particular company are looking for, doesn’t mean I have nothing to offer.

Holding on means knowing your worth, your value. Holding on for me means giving everything my all and having faith in the notion that the perfect opportunity is around the corner. I didn’t get some of the jobs I have applied for because I was not supposed to. I know when I am great fit for a company and they are great fit for me, a job offer will come.

My personal focus is finding work however the idea of holding on applies to everything. Wherever it be not giving up on love, friendships, family etc. Know how important you are and resolve to continually make yourself happy. You will understand what you need and deserve and then make an effort to not give up on it. This is not to say that everyone/thing is worth fighting for. This is why knowing your self-worth is so important. This helps you decipher what is good for you and what isn’t. What you should go for and cling on to and what you should let go.

At the beginning of the post I told you that I was finding it hard to find inspiration. This is because talking about giving up is difficult when things aren’t what I would like them to be. This is why I have to talk about it, because I can reassure myself that I AM trying and to keep going because eventually things will start to go my way.

All in all, keep holding on and never give up because you truly never know what opportunities are around the corner.

Stay Bliss, Laura

Single & Serene

 

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So ever since last week’s blog post I have been thinking about what I wanted to write about next. I don’t know why I was thinking so hard as I’m pretty sure I wanted discuss what it is like to be a young single woman. The reason why I struggled starting this post is because this can be a topic that is hard to honestly discuss. You can a run a real risk of sounding bitter and lonely (eek!). Despite this I will talk about this topic as freely as I can and hopefully someone out there can relate.

Being single can be both the most fun and the most lonely. I guess in a good relationship you are constantly being reassured of how awesome and beautiful you are. Whereas for us singles we are forever battling feelings of inadequacy. This is perfectly okay, it just means that I have to remember to compliment myself!

The fun part of being single is the freedom of it. I can literally go anywhere and hang out with anyone at anytime! It such a laugh to be able to go out with some friends and have no idea where the night will take you. Being young, single and living in London means never knowing what’s in store for you next. I have to admit I do like to party (shocking right) and always without a doubt end up having a deep conversation with a total stranger. It’s a wonderful feeling to live a life completely for myself.

There is on the other hand a lonely side to being single. The most obvious is the physical loneliness – it sounds nice having unlimited access to cuddles, kisses and kind words. And even though a major pro of being single is not having to answer to anyone, it can feel a little unnerving thinking no one out there has any particular interest in where you are or what you are doing. I guess when you make the decision to commit to someone you want that feeling of attachment.
Shallow people make being single a nightmare some times. It is so annoying to be judged and passed over due to your looks before someone even takes the chance to get to even speak to you. Hey, I’m a lovely person,  maybe take 5 minutes to actually get to know me eh?!

Ever since the end of my last relationship (which ended quite amicably) and my move to university I have decided that I was ready. Ready for a brand new relationship with a brand new person.

I had already learnt to be confident within myself, battled with my self-esteem but learnt to love all the things about myself that I previously wanted to change. Flaws and all. Happiness is an inside job and it had taken me some time but I was finally happy with who I am. Working on myself was about making sure my happiness and peace of mind was not attached to what someone else thought of me. I figured if I could come to a place of total self-acceptance, a place of knowing who I am and not worrying about what other people thought, maybe then I could let someone in.

So that was a good few years ago but here I am, STILL SINGLE! It sucks when you get yourself to the game and there’s no play. This is because if you spend so much time fixing yourself and lengthening your shortcomings – you can’t then go and settle. Don’t get me wrong I am not overly picky, neither am I particularly unhappy about being single. I just know what I need to get from a commitment because I know what I intend to bring to it. So there is absolutely no need to rush into something I am not happy with just to save me from being alone. Don’t lower your standards.

Sometimes it can be difficult when you have this plan for yourself that isn’t quite panning out. By the tender age of 23 (which is now!) I was supposed to have finished university with at least a 2:1, have a job, moved out and be one half of a successfully loving relationship. Life right now couldn’t be more opposite to what I intended. I am not down though. It wasn’t exactly the most SMART plan.

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SMART Goals

Now I have decided to make a new plan, and give it much more thought. ‘I want to be successful’ is not the most specific plan. I am not rushing into anything. It is more important for me to have a long think and consider what it is I actually want before I go jumping into anything. I have the same mantra for relationships. Relationships can be the most beautiful thing in the world and it is amazing to have a best-friend and lover fused into one. Some people are lucky enough to have already found this. The rest of us just have to wait it. Be open to people and open to making new friends and eventually something great will come along. Be happy with who you are without needing this amazing love to swoop in and complete you.

It has become more and more evident to me as time has passed how much I love my friends. When you have people you can tell everything to you realise you already have everything you need. They give me all the emotional support I need. This is why I have decided it best to let a relationship happen naturally. However constantly having to reassure myself that this is not giving up! As for now I am totally good 🙂 Guy/girls come and go from your life as you have many relationships that slowly help mould you. Despite all this however you will always have your friends. Why run around looking for something else when I have friends like mine.

Stay Bliss, Laura