Saying Goodbye

I have been thinking a lot recently about all the different times you find yourself saying goodbye. When you think about moving on to start a new chapter of your life, this is normally due to a end of a relationship, a family move or job move etc. One thing I have never really thought about is saying goodbye to a friend.

A friendship doesn’t tend to have the emotional ups and downs that a romantic relationship might. It’s just a steady flow of love, advice, drinking and venting sessions – give and take. Friendships for me are a constant, something you never worry too much about because it will always be there, as it always has. Friendship to me is the equivalent of the comfiest pillow I own. You never picture that pillow going away.

So alas here we are. As much you wish your friendship alone can solve any problem, mend all heartbreak, and be the cure when there’s no other way, this isn’t life. As we grow and we learn, we realise there is some hard decisions we have to make for ourselves. There are some tough choices that not even our friends can help us make. Sometimes that choice is moving away. 

So to the friend who inspires me. To the friend who’s bravery I’m in awe of. To the friend who life has dealt some tough blows. To the friend that came back swinging every time. To my friend that did the unimaginable. To my friend that now has to go.

Life carries on and changing directions is all part of that. The maturity you have shown in making this decision is just one of the reasons why I love you. There is still plenty of time for you to come back and live your London dream.
I talk a lot about making sure you look after yourself. Your physical and mental wellbeing should be the most important thing. Happiness can sometimes be the most difficult job of all because you are forced to make difficult choices regarding what will truly make you happy. Honesty is easy for most of us until it comes to being honest with yourself. The task of having to accept the ‘this isn’t working’ feeling is daunting. It is daunting because it is so easy to get caught up in that feeling. It is so easy to dwell and depress yourself by rehashing the millions of reasons why this isn’t working. It’s at this point you result to convincing yourself you are failure as your self-worth plummets.

The even trickier thing to do after the acceptance is finding a solution. To sit and wallow about how awful life has become is easy. the real work is in fixing it. So when you have the opportunity to watch someone help themselves, it’s a beautiful thing. Of course you extend your arm of friendship and support. Your presence to them is present enough. The fact that you are willing to help makes them feel less alone. You will sit and chat for hours, empty your purse, traipse around London looking at houses with them.

No. They need to do this alone. They need to fight their own battles and create their own solutions. That’s okay. You understand because you’ve been there too. Now you get to bear witness as they become their own hero. Their life is back on track purely because of the choices that they are now making. This is nothing short of amazing and watching this makes you further your own action plan for your life.

As I’ve said before babe, you amaze me. I’m so proud of you and the choices you are making. Saying goodbye to you is going to be extremely difficult. However I know you have thought this through and this is best decision you could have made. You will always have my love and my time. My arm is forever extended to you if you ever were to need it. Changing your plans doesn’t mean you are failing. You have grown up and matured in ways I never did. The man your have already become is a man I am so privileged to have in my life. I can’t wait to watch you continue to grow and achieve the impossible. You are the most loving, caring, funny and honest guy I know.

I wish you all the best. This is not goodbye, this is a see you soon.
Stay Bliss, Laura
For my dearest Cameron – btw we are partying from now until you leave and that’s a fact!14718759_10155424520809698_7814967859881205219_n

Look to the horizon

So this is just a quick post to say that there’s a lot of new things to come. (Yay!)

I have been absolutely loving this blog, it has fast become my baby and I have been looking for new and exciting ways to develop it. The biggest thing I am in the process of planning is a couple photoshoots with some photographer friends of mine. On every post I try to use a featured image that captures the gist of the message of the post. I thought going forward, it would be a good idea if these images were mine. So be prepared for a lot photos of me looking off into a dreamy landscape or indulging in cup of coffee or even typing away on my laptop.

You don’t need to wait for the new year to have a new start. From the moment I started my new job I decided to reinvent myself. I am going to do all the things I’ve always wanted to do but let fear and procrastination stop me. I want to make some new friends (you can never have to many close friends right?) and also enrol in a couple of college courses. For to long I let the fact that university didn’t go to well for me dictate where I could go in life. I thought ‘I don’t have a degree so I will always be a the bottom.’ FALSE. I can do whatever my mind can concieve as long as I put the work in. So can you.

Photoshoot, creative writing course, photography course etc. I can do and will do it all – not for anyone else, for me.

So here’s to the start of a weird and wonderful ‘stay bliss’ adventure. Maybe one day I’ll meet a partner and add to the happiness I have already established for myself. For today I say I am happy. It took a lot of work, many ups and down but I am.

If you are not there’s no need to worry. Believing in yourself and making yourself happy is the hardest job in the world. However it is the most rewarding and a job that will carry on forever. Allow yourself to wallow for a while, keep holding on and celebrate all your wins. When you reach a moment of happiness, embrace it! Hold on to it and celebrate yourself for letting sunshine into your life. Look to your loved ones for support and look into yourself for the motivation to keep going. Be honest with yourself and hopefully at the very end you can congratulate yourself on a job well done.

I’ve changed domains – staybliss.blog (it’s got a ring to it) 🙂

Stay Bliss, Laura

From spain with love

Nightmare turned dream come true
I have been on a real emotional rollercoaster since my last blog post. Some big things have happened to me, good or bad? I guess that depends on how I chose to look at it.

The biggest most gut-wrenching thing that happened was the loss of my highly seemed after job. This was a real blow to my ego and definitely made me more upset then I’d care to say. This is where the good or bad question comes to play. At the time the answer to whether my job loss was a good or bad thing would have been a resounding BAD. It was one of the most awful days I’ve experienced. Throughout the process I tried to remain as calm and dignified as possible. ‘Tried’ being the keyword here. I said my goodbyes to everyone, gave them my cuddles and wished them well in the future endeavours. I then immediately went to the pub..

My first ever blog post was all about it being okay to wallow for the day. Wallow I did! But out of the negative comes the positive. When you lose something as ephemeral as money or a job you start to appreciate more the things in your life that are here to stay.

How many time have my blog posts been dedicated to these crazy friends I call my family. In the moments when I’m feeling the most down, the most uninspired and the most negative they are always there to pick me up. It’s the best feeling in the world knowing there are people who are always in your corner routing you on. My success is there success, and there’s mine.

Yes this job situation has really got to me and shows how quickly things can change. However some things will always remain the same. These are the things that matter most.

I’ve learnt so many lessons over the last couple weeks. I made mistakes in my job that I will never make again which makes me so grateful for the experience. My drive hasn’t diminished and I still believe that if I work hard enough the perfect job opportunity will come around.

While I don’t have, I’m grateful for the stuff I do have.
I have the most amazing friends. I have a very supportive family. I’m living it up on Spain! And I have 3 months experience as a medical professional 😉

Good or bad thing? I say great!

Stay Bliss, Laura